Hva vil folk si Pakistan and Norway, a clash of cultures between two generations?

As a conservative, I can not sympathize with the heroine, the heroine has an inescapable responsibility for the tragedy, knowing her family’s cultural background, but also the boys brought into the boudoir, either ignorance, or is a provocation to the family. It’s infuriating that the daughter is aware of this, but the White Left Madonna is still misleading her “you’re not wrong”.

The father’s reaction is wrong, but understandable, his daughter did this kind of thing, if any father will not be able to control himself – do not let them create a person out? He really loves his daughter and wants her to become an independent, self-respecting and loving woman. Faced with an arranged marriage that would sacrifice his daughter’s future, he even acquiesced to his daughter leaving home, which is heartbreaking and tearful. Is the father who only lets his daughter drink bottled water really wanting her to jump off a cliff? Of course not, that’s just the irrational expression of hate.

The mother is the one who should be criticized the most. If the father’s performance is given a score of 10 (on a scale of 100), the mother’s performance can be directly awarded a zero. Faced with a daughter in deep trouble, she gave not care, but bad words and distrust, and even said “I wish you had not been born”, as a child, there is nothing more devastating than hearing parents say “I wish you had not been born”. I always believe that parents should always pay attention to their children’s psychological dynamics, forbid to speak and act carefully, respect their children’s independent personality and dignity, even if they are educating them at home, they should never give orders, bad words, punches and kicks, but the kind words of education are enough.

On the fifth day of TIFF, we will introduce a Norwegian independent film that touches the heart. Both of the director’s films premiered at TIFF, a heartbreaking, personal women’s story of a culture clash between two different worlds, based on the personal experiences of Pakistani-Norwegian director Iram Haq. She projects her own family’s story as well as her country’s culture into the film. Director Haq’s presentation is particularly valuable in exploring the frictions of ethnic and religious precepts and easy living, while leaving room for understanding, empathy, and analysis of the characters’ motivations. The film pulls back and forth in its narrative progression, character relationship development and emotional changes, with subtle performances from both father and daughter generations that bring tears to your eyes.

Sixteen-year-old Nisha’s double life moves between traditional Pakistani family and modern Norwegian teenage life. At family gatherings, she is the proud student of her father, the sweet girl of her elders, eating poker and listening to traditional music; at classmates, she mingles with her friends and goes to nightclubs to party.

The delicate cultural balance is upset when Nisha brings a boy into her room one day and her father finds out. An unmarried woman alone with a man has violated Pakistan’s ethical and moral boundaries: she has become a woman no one wants, a disgrace to the family. The father sends his daughter on a plane with the reprimand of her friends and family, and in deference to traditional etiquette. …… She is involuntarily sent back to Pakistan: a homeland where her parents have never arrived, to learn the etiquette and culture.

The film observes the events from the perspective of a young girl, Nisha, whose fate is shaped by traditional rituals and is very helpless. Nisha is played by Maria Mozhdah in her first performance, and her portrayal of a young girl caught in the crossfire of a very different culture, from the change of dress, to the rebellion of a young girl to learning to hold her tongue, is very subtle and accurate.

What is interesting is that the story is based on the infinite love of Nisha’s parents and their trust and understanding of them.

Immigrants and children’s cultural affiliation

In his disappointment, the father reveals to Nisha how he struggled from the bottom to the bottom in Norway as a young man, motivated by his belief that he could change his destiny and provide a better environment for his children to grow up in. In his father’s eyes, Nisa’s forbidden fruit is already poisoned by the bad Nordic culture.

Growing up in Northern Europe, Nisha was bound to not understand the Pakistani customs and taboos that her parents forced her to follow. This became a barrier to Nisha’s life. Nisha’s life as a free-spirited Norwegian teenager ends and she is sent back to Islamabad to begin a new and unfamiliar cultural journey.

A son’s desire to bear his father’s wishes.Nisha’s fate is bound by bondage and taboos, and she makes concessions and compromises time and again: she is not allowed to contact her friends, her passport is burned, her father holds her hostage and almost jumps off a cliff, she is forced to change schools, transported to school, and married in an arranged marriage. …… The three chapters of the film are progressive: life as a teenager in Norway, life in her hometown in Pakistan, and life in her new school after returning to Norway. The film is about the life of Nisha, who is at a standstill step by step.

But we don’t hate the father who loves his daughter so much. He wants to be good to his daughter in a self-understood way, to conform to rituals, to compromise with the gossip of his friends and family. And what is even more sobering is that mothers and other female characters are presumably given little voice in the Pakistani cultural context.

Spiritual Oppression Leads to Eventual Exodus.Nisha’s life path is repeatedly restricted and planned by the people she loves, and the traditional ills of Pakistani culture and intercultural conflicts lead Nisha to a desperate situation where she loses her freedom and voice until she chooses to run away because she panics about her unchanging future and does not want to become a subservient, subservient fertility machine that she does not fit in and does not want to become. machine. At this point, the father must have regretted ……

The film’s exploration of the new culture is intriguing. The director illustrates the difficulties and losses of this group of foreigners. I hope that the two generations can communicate and understand more, and slowly sew up the cultural gap.

P.S. The Chinese translation of the film’s title reminds people of Ruan Lingyu’s suicide note, “People’s words can be feared”, is it the world that killed her, or was she not strong enough? If someone else was in her situation, would she have died?

I think it is both, but the external causes of helplessness is too heavy for them to choose to leave and die because they already have nothing to worry about the world.